In Proverbs 1:8-9 we are exhorted to remember the warnings and instruction of our mothers and fathers. By remembering them and following their instruction, we honor them and our character is beautified.
My mother and father were missionaries in Peru, S.A. where my father died when I was only four, leaving my 27 year old widowed mother with my one year old brother and myself.
She returned with us to her home in Toronto, Canada where we lived until I was 10. From ages 5 to 10 I lived with various relatives in Toronto while Mother traveled throughout Canada and USA sharing her burden for missions. Then from age 11-16 I lived in Westervelt Home and School for missionary children with about 100 other children and teens in a rural area outside Batesburg, S.C.
When I was 13 mother married a bachelor missionary and together they served as missionaries in Haiti and had a son and daughter.
So mother did not directly have much influence on my life. However, my relatives, especially my preacher uncle, as well as my teachers at Westervelt Home had a tremendous influence on my life.
Through those important, years, I never felt unloved nor became bitter by my lot in life. Somehow I understood that Mother was doing the best she could for us under her circumstances. In fact, as I look back, I am filled with praise to God for the way He led me during those early, highly impressionable years.
Even when it seems to us that our parents are too old fashioned and do not seem to understand us, we should under God, love, respect and obey them. After we are married and are no longer subject to them; yet we can continue to love and honor them.
Let me share with you some important guiding principles and lessons I learned from my Mother and later from my Christian teachers at Westervelt: principles that have served me well down through the years. principles that have guided my relationship with God and have guided and helped me in relating to others.
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
1. God’s glory is the most important reality in life; not my happiness nor my seeming success in life. I have learned that when God’s glory is first in my life, I am fully fulfilled, satisfied and content.
2. I can NEVER get away with sin without facing the consequences. God catches me and chastens me every time and I am comforted in the sometimes painful chastening. I learned well as a boy the truth of Numbers 32:23 “Be SURE your sins will find you out!!”
3. I stay right with God by dealing with sin when I am convicted. Keep short accounts with God. Don’t try to ignore or brush aside the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Don’t try to make flimsy excuses for your sins. Don’t allow unconfessed sin to drag on for months and years. Such years are wasted and fruitless.
4. God’s will is the most important concern I can seek. His will is the ONLY road of happiness, fulfillment and success. Romans 12:1-2 I dare you! I challenge you to prove it for yourself.
5. Spend time in prayer and in His Word each day. Read and memorize Psalm 27 which teaches us the secret of confidence and success in life.
6. When in doubt concerning choices and the right direction in life, give God and not the devil, the benefit of the doubt.
7. Seek God’s wisdom for your life from God’s Word. That’s God’s warning found in Proverbs 2. Here’s a good hint to keep you on track. For God’s wisdom as you make the decisions of life, read a chapter from Proverbs every day and you’ll read it through every month. Read several Psalm each evening to keep your heart in tune with God.
8 Even when you don’t feel like it, by faith be thankful to God for every thing and every one He brings into your life. I Thessalonians 5:18.
9. Don’t worry about the things you don’t understand about God and His ways. He is GOD. You and I are only human. Romans 11:33-36 and Isaiah 55:8-9. When you don’t understand Him or His dealings with you, worship Him.
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MYSELF
1. All Christians have a sinful flesh nature. Keep it in subjection. Don’t let it tell you what to do. Don’t coddle it. I Corinthians 9:27
2. Put no confidence in your selfish, fleshly nature. Romans 7:18 Run from temptation and sin. II Timothy 2:22
3. Keep a humble, open mind to learn from others; especially other godly people, even if you disagree with them in some matters. Proverbs 27:17
4. Rest in God’s sovereignty. He is in control and has all circumstances under His control, regardless of how circumstances look to you.
5. Rest in His victory. Yes, we are in a warfare with the devil, but we fight best as we rest in Him and watch Him win victories for us. Hebrews 4:9-11, Romans 6 and Ephesians 6:12-13.
6. Always remember, you and I have no rights. We deserve nothing but Hell. All that we have, we have by the grace of God. So be grateful for your lot in life. Don’t whine that you have not been treated fairly by others. The world is not fair. If we got what we deserved, we would all be in Hell.
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FRIENDS
1. Don’t be so concerned about finding friends. Be more concerned with being a friend to the friendless.
2, Listen to wise counsel and test it by the Bible. Determine what is right and do it; regardless of circumstances.
3. Respect others, especially our elders, our teachers, authority in general. but especially, our mothers and our fathers.
4. NEVER be rude to anyone.
5. Make no friends with angry people. Avoid them. Proverbs 22:24-25
6. Don’t co-sign for anyone; unless you love them enough to pay off their debt if they cannot pay it. Proverbs 22:26-27
7. Recognize that ALL contention comes only from PRIDE! Proverbs 13:10
8. Remember my preacher uncle’s motto which he practiced all his 96 years. “NO ATTACK: NO DEFENSE!” He was speaking of personal attack. I believe in my 78 years of life so far, God has enabled me to live by that warning also. When personally attacked stand still and as Moses in Exodus14:13, watch God defend you. But as a preacher, I am called upon in Jude 3 to earnestly contend for The Faith and the eternal truths of God’s Word. Preachers are called upon to attack the devil by exposing him and warning others of his devious ways.
9. Be empathetic. Always be aware of the feelings of others. Be kind, patient, gentle and thoughtful of others. Try to understand them and their viewpoints.
10. Always seek the unity and peace of God’s people. That is more important than your and my interpretation of Scripture and position on questionable issues.
11. Keep your word. Be true and faithful. Others are counting on you.
12. Recognize and appreciate the difficult people God brings into your life. They are tools in the hands of God to mold and refine our character. Get your eyes off them and upon God.
13. Be quick to forgive and never hold grudges.
14. Take every opportunity to warn sinners of God’s coming judgment and offer them the Gospel, the truth that Jesus died to bear God’s judgment and condemnation for our sins. John 5:24
MY RELATIONSHIP IN THE WORKPLACE
1. All work is honorable.
2. Do a good job at whatever you’re called to do. Do it as though God were your employer.
3. Be honest and fair in all your dealings.
4. Learn to be self-reliant. Don’t expect government or others to meet your needs. Don’t beg or hint for money.
5. Don’t be concerned about salaries and benefits. Rather, seek to please God and let Him take care of your needs. Remember this all your life. God is the source and provider of all your needs. Philippians 4:19. We’ve proven this true over 78 years so far. He has NEVER failed us.
6. Be clean, bathe, brush your teeth, comb your hair, shine your shoes. Keep your house and car clean as a testimony for Christ.
7. Always live within you means. Avoid needless debts. Remember the borrower is a servant (a slave) to the lender. Proverbs 22:7
8. Endure hardness and difficulties without complaining. II Timothy 2:3
9. Be on time for appointments. Don’t keep others waiting. You steal their time. It is rude and arrogant of professionals or anyone to make a habit of this.
10. Don’t procrastinate. When you have an assignment, get started on it right away. By staying on top of your schedule you avoid needless pressure.
11. Finally, if you’ve started on something, finish the job!
WHY SHOULD I LEARN FROM MY PARENTS?
1. These principles and guidelines will beautify your character.
2. They will enhance your testimony. I Timothy 4:12
3. They will open up doors of opportunity to you. Proverbs 22:29
4. They will give direction to your life. Proverbs 6:20-23
5. They may prolong your life. Exodus20:12 Ephesians 6:1-3
6. You will bring glory to God.
TO DESPISE YOUR PARENTS AND WHAT THEY HAVE TAUGHT YOU
1. Will bring shame to God’s name.
2. Will break your parent’s heart. Proverbs 10:1,15:20
3. Will bring God’s judgment on you. Proverbs 1:24-33, 20:20, 30:17.
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