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Virtuous Woman #7: Loving Hands


We are continuing our study of the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31. A virtuous woman, surrendered to Christ and obedient to His Word,  not only makes her husband her first priority and thus has a solid, happy marriage; but she also expresses her love and devotion to her children by caring for all their needs.


A woman can only be the right kind of mother as she is the right kind of wife. She can only be the right kind of wife as she is a charactered woman of principle. The power and the ability to be such a woman comes through a saving relationship with Christ.


Though the Western woman of the 21st century does not have the same duties as a Mid-Eastern woman of  Bible times, she still has the responsibility to manage and care for the domestic responsibilities of her home. 


This virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 stands for everything the modern  women’s liberation movement opposes and yet she alone is the truly liberated joyful woman. Why is that? Psalm 113:9 declares that God Himself “makes a barren woman to keep house and be a joyful mother of children.”


Husbands and fathers, I encourage you to take a good look at the hands of your wife and mother of your children.  As a pastor who has my study in my home, I have seen up closely the burdens that a mother bears and the hard work she accomplishes with her hands each day.


A virtuous woman cares for her babies and toddlers all day long and sometimes most of the night; holding them and comforting them when they have pain they cannot explain and rocking them to sleep.


A virtuous woman lovingly prepares nutritious meals for her family three times a day,  She keeps her home clean and keeps up on the never-ending piles of laundry.


A virtuous mother does not do all the household chores by herself. As the children grow older, she teaches them to work in the home, gradually transferring some of the household chores to them. Whether you pay them for their chores or not, is up to you.  Personally, I don’t think it is necessary.  They are already blessed to be part of the family with all its rights and privileges. It’s good for them to learn the values of responsibility, self-sacrifice and unselfishness.  As they grow older they can take jobs outside the home and earn extra money. 


In Proverbs 31:13 we learn that the virtuous woman works willingly.  Most of us could never begin to pay our wives the money they deserve for the various jobs they do in the home. For my wife it has included: cooking baking- mostly from scratch, canning and freezing food directly from our garden, cleaning the house, cutting hair (she has been my barber for 55 years as well as  cutting our children’s hair, making clothes, taking care of sick children, home schooling; and the list goes on.


Proverbs 31:14 tells how the virtuous woman seeks out bargains and quality merchandise.  Today she not only combs the papers,  but the internet for the best buys.  Her husband trusts her with the check book and credit cards.  I encourage couples to always discuss major purchases together.


I can’t leave this topic without speaking of romantic hands. I will never forget the first time I ever held Pat’s hands.  Prior to that time the only times I had held girl’s hands was when playing games.  Hers were the only hands I had ever held romantically and mine were the only hands she had ever held romantically. The occasion was on a Saturday evening in May of 1954 and the place was on the 6th Street bridge in Pittsburgh, Pa.


We had met in December of 1953 and I started writing letters to her.  I was a student at Bob Jones University and she was a student at Columbia Bible College (now Columbia International University)  At the close of the school year I traveled to Pittsburgh with some fellow students to work at a rescue mission on the North Side of Pittsburgh, which incidentally was her home town. I played the piano and slept in a tiny room at the back of the mission and worked washing and sanitizing rooms at Allegheny General Hospital a few blocks away.


Each Saturday night at the mission there was a youth rally. With some encouragement from a friend and fellow-worker at the Mission, I called Pat and let her know I was in town and invited her to the rally.  She was shocked to know I was there, for as the school year came to an end I did not know what I was going to do nor where I would be for the summer. So it seemed to both of us as though our correspondence was drying up and we would probably never see each other again. 


Pat showed up that evening with her girl friend and husband and two single ladies from her church. We met and re-established our friendship that night. One or two weeks later following the Saturday night youth rally we decided to walk across the bridge into town for some ice cream.  As we walked in the twilight with the two single ladies behind us, I was compelled to reach for her hand. She did not pull away and I have been holding on ever since.  That was over fifty-five years ago and the fire works still go off when we  hold hands just as they did that May evening on the bridge.  In August that summer we were engaged and a year later married.


It is not a sin for a boy and girl to hold hands, but I would encourage young people to reserve hand holding and certainly kissing only for the one you are engaged to marry and sexual intimacy only for marriage. Those intimacies will mean so much more to you if you reserve them for the one you marry.  Yes, believe it or not, that hand holding was a first for both us and now over fifty-five years later, we still find it thrilling to hold hands.


Men, take a fresh look at your wife’s hands and let her know how much you appreciate all she has done for you and your children down through the years. Rejoice that you have a godly, virtuous wife who exercises that godliness and expresses her unselfish, unsparing love in practical ways.



May 18, 2007 - Posted by | Virtuous Woman

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