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Virtuous Woman # 10: Her Priorities



For the virtuous woman or man, Christ must be the first priority. Jesus taught us in Matthew 6:33 to “seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness” and all our other concerns will take their proper place and our needs will be provided.   In Colossians 1:18  Paul shows us that Christ must be preeminent in our lives as Christians.


If Christ is not first in your life, you are in no condition to be thinking about a boy friend or girl friend, or getting married.  Such a relationship would be flawed from the start. You would make a terrible mistake just like every young person who refuses to surrender to Christ.


Mary, the sister of Martha made the right choice, as recorded in  Luke 10:38-42.  The virgin Mary made the right choice when she surrendered her body to God and was given the high privilege and honor of becoming the mother of Jesus when He came in his earthly body to this earth.  If Mary had not been surrendered, God could not have used her.




Wives and Mothers, next to Christ, your husband is your first earthly priority.  Once you’ve committed to a man as your husband, your priorities shift from yourself to your husband and his plans. Your life ceases to revolve around you and it begins to revolve around your husband.


It is part of God’s plan for you under the curse as recorded in Genesis 3:16. “To the woman God said, I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you will bring forth children, yet your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you.” 


Though a husband must never force his wife to submit to him,  a Christian woman surrendered to Christ,  offers glad submission to her husband and that very curse becomes a blessing to her.


Your life as a virtuous woman centers on living for and pleasing your husband; and you, a virtuous wife, become a joyful woman.


Remove from your mind the false concept that marriage is a 50/50 proposition in which you get your way half the time and your husband gets his way half the time.  A marriage built on this proposition will end up in endless fights over whether you are being treated fairly.


Rather, marriage is a 100% surrender of a wife to her husband and a 100% surrender of a husband to the needs and happiness of his wife.  You had better choose wisely and you had better make sure you are first surrendered to Christ, or it will be impossible for you to be surrendered to your husband.




You, as a virtuous mother, spend your life providing for all the needs of you children. You and your husband together train and discipline them.  From the beginning you teach and prepare them for the day they will leave home and make all their own decisions.  From their early childhood you see to it that they are clothed with the righteousness of Christ.


You pray for them from conception. You teach them daily. You model Christ for them daily.  You teach them marriage and family values as they observe how you relate to their father daily.


As a virtuous woman you take seriously your responsibilities with your husband to discipline your children biblically. For more information on this, go to my article on DISCIPLINE  under the FAMILY link.


Not only will your children observe your beautiful, loving, submissive relationship with your husband, their father; but they will learn as your relate to them. Daily they will learn as they observe your wisdom, kindness and consistency.  Kindness and integrity must be central principles of your life as they observe you even when you disagree with your husband and as they observe you even when you are worn to a frazzle and don’t feel well.


Remember, if you fail your husband or your children, you fail the Lord.  Do you see  the importance of your relationship with God?  Without Him you have no desire nor ability to fulfill your other priorities of life.




Your own appearance must not be priority #1.  That’s the way it is with the natural, unconverted woman.  Her appearance and personal preferences come first.  Her hair her nails, her clothing and pampering herself all come before her husband or her children. 


A virtuous woman sacrifices her life and energy for her family.  Many mothers sacrifice their youthful figures when they have children.  Some recover it, but many cannot.


When we speak of sacrificing for your children, we are not implying that you should give in to the whims of your children.  You need to learn to say NO kindly but decisively to some of their desires, especially when they are demanded.


Though your appearance is not priority # 1, you do not become careless about your appearance.  You discipline yourself as far as eating and exercise are concerned.  My wife got plenty of exercise just  keeping after three little ones and cleaning our two story parsonage.


Though you dress modestly, you dress as nicely as you can afford.  Stylish? Perhaps, but only if those styles are modest and reflect the beauty of being a Christian. If ugliness is in style, then ignore that style.  Basically, dress to please your husband.




Someone has said, ” Man’s work is sun to sun, but woman’s work is never done.”  Men tend to focus on one job at a time; whereas women seem to be able to handle a dozen things at the same time.  Ask you husband to baby-sit for the afternoon while you go out, and chances are he will get nothing else accomplished.  For him it is a full time job.


The virtuous woman will no doubt find time, perhaps while the baby is napping, or after the children are tucked in bed and asleep to have a little down time to pamper herself with a bubble bath, or do some personal reading or spend time with her hobbies. But even then, she is always on call to the needs of her little children.


Not until the nest is empty will she finally have time to devote some of her time to her personal interests and hobbies.  Until then, her work is never done.  Mothering is a full time responsibility twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.




Girls, is this the life you desire?  Are you ready to become a full time wife and mother if God gives you children?  If you cannot respect and admire the young man who is to become the father of your children, and if you are not mature enough to take on all the duties and responsibilities of a wife and mother,  you are not yet ready for marriage. You had better slow down or cut off your romantic relationship with that guy.


No woman and no man is perfect. But if in your heart you long to be a virtuous wife and mother and if you have found the man who, in spite of his flaws, you can love and respect and submit to his spiritual leadership,  then and only then are you ready for marriage.


May 15, 2007 - Posted by | Virtuous Woman

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