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Marriage series #1: Attracting the Right Man

Young ladies,  although this study on marriage is Biblically based;  let me start by  giving you my opinions on how to be attractive, opinions I have held since my teen years and opinions I believe are biblically-based. Learn from them or ignore them, whichever you choose.

The first principle that should determine your make-up and dress as well as your actions and attitudes is to do all to the glory of God. But that principle can be a little fuzzy to a young woman who is trying to attract a boy friend or husband. What does it mean to have an appearance that reflects the glory of God? Basically, it is the opposite of an appearance that attracts the fleshly lusts of men.

Using cosmetics to try to improve your appearance is not sinful nor worldy. When my wife and I were married, she didn’t wear lipstick, simply because I didn’t like it nor think she needed it. Later on as she aged, she showed me that a little make up improved her appearance and I agreed. Since then she has worn it, just enough to enhance her natural beauty.

It’s interesting to note that the only person mentioned in the Bible who painted her face was Jezebel, one of the most wicked women in the Bible.

It’s my opinion that girls and young women wear cosmetics primarily to impress other girls, rather than young men. Many young ladies over-do it and give themselves a plastic, artificial look. That does not attract spiritually-minded young men.

Girls and young teens have such fresh, beautiful faces that it is a shame to cover them up with make-up. If you must wear make up, do it artistically. The purpose of the make-up is not to call attention to the make-up. Rather, the purpose is to apply it so subtly that others are not even aware you are wearing it. The more natural you look, the more beautiful you look to men.

The same principles apply to your clothes. The more feminine you dress, the more attractive you are to a man. Femininity does not include trying to look sexy by showing as much of your body as you dare. Such appearance is a turn-off to spiritually-minded young men. On the other hand, you are not attractive by trying to dress like the Puritans or the Amish by showing almost no skin and no figure. The secret of being attractive to a young man is to keep a little mystery regarding your appearance. In fact, I believe I am accurate in saying that mystery as well as genuineness in a woman is what attracts men.

More important than your appearance is your heart. A pure heart reflects in your humility. Peter says it best when he speaks to wives in I Peter 2:1-4 Let me paraphrase some of it for you. “Wife, be in subjection to your own husband; that if he does not obey the Word, he may also without your preaching the Word, be won by the way you live before him; as he observes your pure manner of life coupled with the fear of God. Whose adorning, let not the focus be on the outward adorning: how you fix your hair, what jewelry you wear, or what clothing you wear, but recognize that your beauty comes from the hidden heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God ( and may I add in the sight of men) of great price.”

What Peter says to wives can be applied by young women seeking God’s will concerning a boy friend and eventually a husband.

Young people, yield yourself fully to God. Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.”


March 30, 2006 - Posted by | Marriage Series

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